We’re taught that good work speaks for itself. But in reality, good work often goes unnoticed when it’s not visible.
This is something I’ve seen repeatedly — especially among thoughtful, capable professionals.
They wait for recognition. For someone to notice. For something to shift on its own.
But here’s what actually happens:
- They stay stuck in roles they’ve long outgrown.
- They burn out in projects that no longer fit.
- They watch others move ahead — not because those people are better, but because those people asked.
In many cases, silence is mistaken for satisfaction.
If you don’t say anything, it’s often assumed you’re fine.
And here’s something else I’ve seen often:
We assume people will “just understand.” That they’ll know we’re unhappy, or that we’re ready for more.
But the truth is — they’re not mind readers.
Your manager doesn’t know you want a bigger role.
Your partner may not know you feel overwhelmed.
Your team may not know you’re drowning in work you don’t believe in.
This applies beyond the workplace too. Even in relationships, silence creates gaps that only clear conversation can close.
When You Stay Silent, Nothing Shifts
Think about it: you’re served a cold meal at a hotel.
You hesitate. Should you say something? Will it seem petty?
But once you do — calmly, clearly — things shift.
You’re heard. You’re served what you actually asked (and paid) for.
The same applies in our personal and professional lives.
You don’t have to complain loudly. You just have to speak clearly.
What Helps You Move Forward
Here are a few shifts that help — ones I return to often in my own reflections and conversations with others:
Notice where you’re waiting. Are you hoping someone sees your effort? That they’ll eventually offer what you haven’t asked for? Are they capable of giving what you “expect” them to give?
Get clear on what you want. Before you ask anyone else, be honest with yourself. What exactly are you hoping for — and why?
Have the conversation. Most shifts start with one honest ask. Not a rant. Not a confrontation. Just clarity spoken out loud.
Focus on clarity, not control. You may not always get what you ask for — but you’ll almost always get a clearer picture of where you stand.
Because change doesn’t always begin when you work harder.
Sometimes, it begins when you speak up.
Doors don’t always open just because you’re standing there.
Sometimes, you have to knock.
